Weight Misconceptions

I have a lot I want to say to people in this post and I can only hope that I can articulate what I want to say in a way that makes sense.  

Every day we are surrounded by messages that say you need to be thin to do x, y, and z. Or you grow up being compared to people based on size or shape. People make comments about others based on what they look like ALL THE TIME. This upsets me deep down to the core.  

Making a judgement about someone’s appearance is not fair. You do not know what they do or what they’ve experienced. Some people may be struggling with a disease or hormonal imbalance that affects their ability to lose weight and/or contributes to weight gain. Other people may be so busy taking care of others that their health falls by the wayside. And others may live a healthy lifestyle but live in a larger body. So I challenge you to think twice before making comments about how other people look. Just like books shouldn’t be judged by their cover, people shouldn’t be judged by their size.

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Furthermore, a good life is not negatively correlated with weight (meaning as your weight goes down, your life does not get better). If you lose weight it doesn’t mean you’ll get that promotion or find a boyfriend or be happy. Living your best life, however that may look to you is how you succeed and find true happiness. When you’re happy and confident you attract other people, your happiness is magnetic. The thin ideal is just that, an ideal that society wants us to believe is the end point. But life is a journey of ups and downs where we have to continue to adjust and do what’s right for OURSELVES. Life is about so much more than trying to be a shape or size that other people tell us to be. Yes, being healthy is important but health does not equate to skinny all the time. The focus should be on healthy habits and behaviors not on weight loss.

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My lessons for today: 

  • Think before you speak out about someone else’s weight or appearance. There’s often more going on than you think or know.
  • If you’re living in a larger body or are struggling with the thin ideal, know that you aren’t alone.
  • Identify you’re true values and dreams and go after them no matter your weight or size or shape. When we are happy we are more likely to take better care of ourselves.
  • If you want to make some healthier changes, that’s great. But take the focus off of weight and instead focus on the positive changes you are making and how that affects your overall health.
  • Happiness does not grow as weight goes down. We all deserve happiness no matter what size we are. 

If youre struggling to put your health health and happiness first or to identify ways that you can be healthier please reach out to a dietitian. Many dietitians work in different ways just like therapists so don’t be discouraged if one doesn’t “fit” just right. This post is meant to show you that everyone has an inner struggle and you aren’t alone if society makes you feel you should look a different way. I know I feel that pressure. My only hope is that by writing these posts I can positively affect one person and help them realize that health is so much more than body weight.

Reflecting on Phase Two

About 2 ½ months ago I started Beach Body with some hesitation (with the name and the nutrition plans). And 50 days ago I started the 80 Day Obsession. Phase One was all about sticking with the workouts and finding ways to incorporate them into my routine. Phase two ended up being my “just hang on” phase for a number of reasons. As I begin phase three I find myself more energetic and motivated than I’ve felt in a long time and it’s a great feeling. So here I am reflecting on phase two. 

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First, it was HOT. Most days were humid with high temperatures. It was so gross and did not motivate me to workout at all but I still got it done. Although those days were likely not my best workouts. 

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I also traveled and had a lot going on. In the past few weeks I had to find an apartment for starting in September. That took a lot out of me but the good news is I won’t be homeless. And I also spent a chunk of time in Maine with my family where I didn’t have heavy weights but I did have motivation. My mom and I stuck to our workouts like the badasses we are. 

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The middle is always the hardest. It’s the lag. The beginning you’re all “let’s do this” and the end is “don’t give up.” But the middle is kind of like “will this ever end?” So yes I struggled a bit. Despite the challenges I finished every workout even if I had to move my rest days around some weeks. I also came to realize that the end of the 80 days is not an end because I’ve found my passion for exercising again! 

The significance of phase two was definitely the psychological gains. I’m up two pounds which normally would discourage me, but I walk with my head taller than ever before. I feel strong and capable in my workouts, at work, and in life. It’s an amazing feeling.  

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I haven’t lost any additional inches, either. Now maybe this is because I chose not to follow the meal plan because I believe life shouldn’t be that strict. Or maybe it’s because I could have pushed a bit harder. Either way I still feel stronger and I’m proud of myself for that. It’s the fact that I keep going and making healthier choices as best I can that matters. 

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 I have finally found a workout that I want to do each day! I genuinely look forward to {most of} the workouts. Some I dread...but not always. I also love that they’re so convenient. I never knew that I was not going to the gym because I just needed time to relax after work. Now I can come home, relax, and then workout when I’ve regained some energy. It works so well for me. 

Moving on to phase three I’m excited to continue to feel strong and energized and not just in my workouts. I’m also motivated to cut back on some empty calories like alcohol (I’ll save that for when I’m out with friends) and the treats (there’s a time and place...and I need to perfect my popsicles). Working out and eating healthier is only sustainable if you figure out how to make it align with your lifestyle and values and I feel like I finally did.  {Insert awkward dancing}

 

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