I have a lot I want to say to people in this post and I can only hope that I can articulate what I want to say in a way that makes sense.
Every day we are surrounded by messages that say you need to be thin to do x, y, and z. Or you grow up being compared to people based on size or shape. People make comments about others based on what they look like ALL THE TIME. This upsets me deep down to the core.
Making a judgement about someone’s appearance is not fair. You do not know what they do or what they’ve experienced. Some people may be struggling with a disease or hormonal imbalance that affects their ability to lose weight and/or contributes to weight gain. Other people may be so busy taking care of others that their health falls by the wayside. And others may live a healthy lifestyle but live in a larger body. So I challenge you to think twice before making comments about how other people look. Just like books shouldn’t be judged by their cover, people shouldn’t be judged by their size.
Furthermore, a good life is not negatively correlated with weight (meaning as your weight goes down, your life does not get better). If you lose weight it doesn’t mean you’ll get that promotion or find a boyfriend or be happy. Living your best life, however that may look to you is how you succeed and find true happiness. When you’re happy and confident you attract other people, your happiness is magnetic. The thin ideal is just that, an ideal that society wants us to believe is the end point. But life is a journey of ups and downs where we have to continue to adjust and do what’s right for OURSELVES. Life is about so much more than trying to be a shape or size that other people tell us to be. Yes, being healthy is important but health does not equate to skinny all the time. The focus should be on healthy habits and behaviors not on weight loss.
My lessons for today:
- Think before you speak out about someone else’s weight or appearance. There’s often more going on than you think or know.
- If you’re living in a larger body or are struggling with the thin ideal, know that you aren’t alone.
- Identify you’re true values and dreams and go after them no matter your weight or size or shape. When we are happy we are more likely to take better care of ourselves.
- If you want to make some healthier changes, that’s great. But take the focus off of weight and instead focus on the positive changes you are making and how that affects your overall health.
- Happiness does not grow as weight goes down. We all deserve happiness no matter what size we are.
If youre struggling to put your health health and happiness first or to identify ways that you can be healthier please reach out to a dietitian. Many dietitians work in different ways just like therapists so don’t be discouraged if one doesn’t “fit” just right. This post is meant to show you that everyone has an inner struggle and you aren’t alone if society makes you feel you should look a different way. I know I feel that pressure. My only hope is that by writing these posts I can positively affect one person and help them realize that health is so much more than body weight.